by Karin Leonard
Last month we explored how to create sustainable change, and turn self-criticism into support. Today we’ll further explore the nature of lasting transformation.
Sudden Jumps and Steady Growth
Putting the hype of unrealistic expectations aside, we are able to take evolutionary leaps in our mental, emotional and spiritual development. There is the great magic of a sudden flash of insight, or the far-reaching effects of inner shifts deep in the unconscious mind.
However, the key to make such profound change work, is the steady growth and support that follows. Internal transformation ripples through the fabric of who we are, and therefore, affects all aspects of life. To sustain development, set up structures of support.
Systems of Support
The foundation that nurtures successful change is self-acceptance. Success does not come about by will power alone. Pushing yourself too hard, or a self-punishing attitude, only goes so far. What works is creating your best life because you care about yourself. Nonetheless, making positive change last does require attention. We are creatures of habit, and without daily focus and helpful systems, even the most profound inner shift loses momentum. For example, if work has been consuming your life, and you realize that at the end of your life you want to remember more than stress at the office, that realization alone is not enough to alter your lifestyle. Next, design a sustainable rhythm, balancing work with other important aspects of your life, and then gradually implementing your plan.
Ecology of Change
As you shift and grow, all areas of your existence are affected. Therefore, consider how shifts in your behavior will affect the entire system you are part of. How you relate to your mate, children and coworkers might change. Your work, home and leisure could take on a new flair. Most of this will likely be positive, yet don’t be surprised if the people you interact with resist “the new you.” Be patient and understanding with significant other’s reactions, yet clear in your communication, and solid in your boundaries. In the long run, taking care of yourself and cultivating the change you desire, will benefit everyone you interact with. When you are happy and in harmony with yourself, all else falls into place.
Having had the privilege to witness countless clients transform themselves and their lives, in a relatively short period of time, I am in awe of human nature, and what we are capable of accomplishing – once we decide to do so, and believe that we can. And it is my personal mission (and sincerest pleasure) to be in service of this marvelous process of human evolution.
Karin H. Leonard is a professional coach, personal consultant and seminar leader, with 26 years of experience in coaching, hypnosis, NLP and conducting workshops. Karin is a popular speaker, and available for a variety of seminars, including coaching skills. Office located in Santa Cruz. (831) 724-5400. Visit Karin’s website at wwwInnerEvolution.com.